Well, it took a while for this to age enough for me to be able to answer it without a lot of effort. :) In short, my preconception (well, not "pre" conception, but previous idea, okay?) was sort of "lots of relationships, no particular hierarchy among them." And there are still aspects of that notion that serve me. But what I've also noticed -- and have finally realized that it is OKAY that I am this way -- is that things tend to work out, willy-nilly, so that I have one primary relationship and everything else is various flavors of secondary.

Hope that helps --